ive recently found out that in the 80s lesbians who were more interested in cuddles and kisses rather than sex were called bambi lesbians
it’s such a cute thing omg let’s bring this term back
the love ace lesbians found for this post warms my heart mind body and soul and spirit
reblog to make an ace lesbian feel happy
Okay, so I hate to be a Debbie-Downer here because I would love to use this term for myself. But I went back and tried to look into how accurate this is and honestly? The only source for the term is literally OPs. Everyone who mentions “bambi lesbians” always points back to this post. I even went into archived text and lgbt magazines SPECIFICALLY in the 80s and it never came up. I sure as hell found every other kind of lesbian category (I could even tell you when they started to trend in the community) but not that one.
Sorry, OP is either lying or got lied to. But hell, use the term anyway because lgbt slang is always evolving. Make it a thing. Just don’t keep quoting it was a thing in the 80s because there’s no evidence and its misinformation.
This has been loitering in our likes for a while, and ace awareness week seemed like a good time to bring it out, and share some good news - there is actually some evidence suggesting this might be true! We found it while researching for our podcast on queer slang: on p.60 of the second edition of The Alyson Almanac, you’ll find the entry:
BAMBI-SEXUALITY. Physical interaction centered more about touching, kissing, and caressing than around genital sexuality.
The Alyson Almanac describes itself as “a treasury of information for the gay and lesbian community”, and was first put out by the Boston-based queer publishing house Alyson Publications in 1989. I can’t find the first edition online, or determine how different the second edition, published in 1990, was to the first, so I can’t confirm that bambi-sexuality was mentioned in this book in the 1980s, but I am willing to hazard a guess that it didn’t appear in a book in the very first year it was spoken - which would suggest it was being used in the 1980s. And while this doesn’t confirm the existence of the term “bambi lesbian” at that time, it definitely points in that direction. If anyone knows more, let us know!


























